WHY DO MARRIED MEN CHEAT?
I got a message on my inbox yesterday morning and this was the very question; “why do married men cheat?” this question has been swirling around for so long and its prominence is a source of concern for many.
The truth is, this question is not a misery, and we all know it. As a girl, your parents, uncles and aunties told you even before you get married. “Man dey like woman ooo, even if he dey carry girl for outside, happy say he nor dey bring am come house” this is what you will be told.
It has been implanted into our subconscious to accept this and be grateful for it, and not to ask questions or be upset.
As a young girl, if your boyfriend cheats on you and you break up with him, even your girlfriends will call you a fool. They say, “babe, u nor jus get sense ooo nor be e get money to waste, chop am”
It’s what guys do, and so in the African society, ladies are taught to expect it “all men cheat” they say “you can’t leave a country because of rain” they say.
I asked a married friend of mine this very question of why men cheat and this was what he said “you might not just get the urge for sex with your wife, but with another girl outside, you do. And also, you always know that your wife will always be there, and you are tired of the setting”
Sounds like a reasonable answer right? What about your wife? If she wasn’t a virgin before she married you, then she must have had other sexual partners, do you ever consider that you might bore her too and she must be tired of it with you as well?
In our society it’s okay for men to cheat and that’s why they do with no remorse whatsoever. It’s not a problem; in fact the problem will be when he doesn’t cheat.
Everyone comes up with different excuses why married men cheats “the wife is lazy and dirty, young girls wear seductive clothes, human needs are insatiable, because their wives don’t provide sexual satisfaction, because they are tired of eating one kind of soup, because men are born to cheat” these all boils down to one point. Men cheat because the society allows it.
Do you think that some married women don’t cheat? Of course they do, but they hide it and can’t flaunt it in their husband’s face because her church women’s group will ex-communicate her, her mother will be disappointed in her and the entire society will never forgive her.
Why do some married men cheat? Because we all allow it, because we think it’s perfectly mundane and because he can.
As a girl, a man asks you out and you see a wedding ring on his finger and you don’t cringe, you accept him. As a woman, your husband is sleeping with the neighbour’s daughter and you go fight the young girl instead of your promiscuous husband.
You wonder why married people cheats, well, it’s because they are not committed to one another, something starts going wrong in your marriage and you seek for comfort outside your home instead of fixing the problem and finding a Godly way out.
Maybe there is another secret out there that I don’t know about, maybe there is a more understandable reason why married men and women cheats. And feel free to give us more insight to it on the comment section.
But here is a piece of my mind, men cheats because the society forbids women from cheating and encourages men to…
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