Personally, I consider relationships to be very important, properly not for the same reasons as others.
Alone, a man is created great, given many responsibilities by God, which he was also given all the abilities to perform by the one who created him. Then God, the Almighty deemed it fit to create another, a woman, one given other responsibilities which she too had the substance to perform.
Then, these two creations were put together and given another ability; which was the ability to create. “Nor fast forward go say, na to born pikin alone oh”
I believe that the right man and woman creates’ a unique partnership; they can do incredible things together.
I guess that’s why a lot of persons strive hard to find their “missing rib” an expression which has quickly turned into a cliché in the society.
Now, I don’t believe in the concept of “the one” that feeling or notion that there is one person created for you. I rather ascribe to the belief that successful relationships are self made.
By self made, I mean, find someone you love and love you in return then deliberately dedicate your lives to being committed to each other in spite of your individual flaws.
Everyone comes with their baggage, yes, that’s because, we are human beings, even with love, you will still be aware that your spouses does a number of things in ways that you consider wrong.
But if you can understand the fact that, she is not supposed to think like you or everyone else and he is not supposed to act like you or like you sister’s boyfriend, then maybe the love you have for each other and your willingness to commit to the relationship will make you both “the ones” for each other.
There is no one person that is created for you, there might be but I rather not believe that, because if there is just one person created for you, then what if that person dies before meeting you? Does that mean you will be fated to live alone being sad and miserable? Or end up with a half baked husband or wife? Ponder over that for a moment.
Are you in a relationship right now? Do you love that person? If yes, then commit to it. Even if there was one person out there who was created for the sole purpose of loving you, my dear, you will still have to be willing to commit, you will still have to compromise and learn to accommodate their flaws.
Relationships are very important, maybe you perceive it as an avenue to extort money from your spouse, or it’s an opportunity for sex, maybe with a girlfriend you now have someone to dominate over, or to do your laundry. But, sweetheart, a relationship is more than just all that.
In fact all these mentioned are the least of what a relationship should offer you, you can get more and you shouldn’t settle for that, get a partner, get someone who would build that empire with you, not the one that will help break it down.
The idea of “the one” is nice, it makes you sleep better, hoping that you will find it someday but darling, even if it exist, you will actually have to work twice as hard to make it work. Relationships are essential but it’s only if you are willing to work on it that he or she will be “the one” for you…
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