THE CHALLENGE  

I have this dear friend of mine who I admire so much, mostly for his incredible insight of people and why they act the way they do. He sees and understands people very well and I just wish I can attain that level of perception.

Few weeks ago I talked to him and he seemed terribly distressed, he told me about his new girlfriend who he doesn’t understand at all, that statement baffled me to my very core.

Same guy who is the king of why people act the way they do. How can he not understand someone close to him? I asked and he was like “my sista, I just tire, this girl wan kill me”

We talked for a while and I gave him the few advice I could but I kept thinking about more ways that I could help him out even after I left him, because to be quite sincere with you, this guy is basically like a psychologist, a kinetic expert even, so for him to find this babe to be a puzzle, could only mean one thing; he was in love with her.

Yes, love confuses even the most focused persons, most especially when this love is not properly reciprocated. When you try to decipher who they are or why they act the way they do, you just complicate it because of the involvement of your heart.

Sadly, my friend is not the only victim of such circumstance, it happens to the best of us and it can drive you crazy to the point of being frustrated which was the position my friend was.

Once you are in love, all your knowledge about the human behaviour goes out into the wind but it doesn’t have to be so, being in love is the most vulnerable position that your heart could put you, because then; the people we feel this love for can use it against us once they figure it out.

But what if they don’t know? Because you can love someone and not know how best to show it and you might even think you are showing it but it’s just not coming out.

Understanding your spouse in a relationship is a matter of utmost importance, knowing the right thing to say in a particular situation, knowing how to attend to their diverse moods, is what could make you the most invaluable person in your spouse’s life.

Now, in the beginning of a new relationship, the ground is still shaky, everything is fresh and most things about this person is unknown to you but don’t be discouraged, instead, appreciate the challenge and get to know this person.

People are different and like I told my friend, if this girl was easy for you to understand, then you wouldn’t like her as much as you do now, so celebrate her uniqueness and be grateful for it.

Love can hardly be reciprocated in equal fold but there will come a time in the relationship when you both will be on same page about your feelings and the unsteady beginning will be a thing of distance memory.

Be patient, be willing to put in efforts, and you will get to the place where that challenge will be worth it…

 

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27 thoughts on “THE CHALLENGE

  1. The willingness to understand someone’s personality always shows level of affection. Even if it’s not entirely successful it still shows love

  2. At that point when love happen, we seems to be submerged in the ocean of emotion and that deeply cloud our judgement. It is not really that one can’t deal with the present issue but we just don’t want to. And thus, we tend to compromise instead of being strict..#My Opinion#

  3. Be patient, be willing to put in efforts, and you will get to the place where that challenge will be worth it. Yes dear, without effort every relationship will be futile. Nice one Miss Eruteya

  4. Nice write up…love is like a double edge sword cos both side hurts and when it does it takes understanding to lick ur wound in silence.thank u madam, may God grant you more imprimatur dear

  5. He should try n respond to her instead of reacting. All women desire one simple quality in their partner, which is understanding. Let ur friend know that we don’t develop courage by being happy everyday. We develop it by surviving difficult times n challenging adversity. U are a genius my dear Tasha

  6. Comrade Dennis Mene says:

    One thing I understand about this love of a thing is understanding and being who you are because as time goes on especially in marriage it will not be at first . Good piece I must say .

  7. But what if they don’t know? Because you can love someone and not know how best to show it and you might even think you are showing it but it’s just not coming out. U have a point there, I dated a girl who I loved so much but I just couldn’t show it to her, I thought I was but she never really knew

  8. True word but sometimes u may love the wrong person. U will know when your efforts are not appreciated. If dat is d case, I ll say move on cos one beautiful thing abt love is, u can always fall in love again with someone else.

  9. Same guy who is the king of why people act the way they do. How can he not understand someone close to him? I asked and he was like “my sista, I just tire, this girl wan kill me” lol. Love don catch am. Nice one Tash

  10. Ifewario Israel says:

    Some people are just too difficult to understand, and the more you try, the more you don’t understand them.

  11. If love can’t be reciprocated in equal fold, doesn’t that mean that one will love the other less?. Isn’t that unfair?

  12. If love can’t be reciprocated in equal fold, doesn’t that mean that one will love the other less?. Isn’t that unfair? I think there should be a balance.

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