I was about seven years old when I lost my grandma, and a lot of her memory is now vague to me but one of her word of wisdom has not faded from my mind. She would say; “A man whose wife has nothing doing hardly prosper”.
And for that, she made sure that all her daughters had financial establishments even before they are married. The woman was an epitome of wisdom and beauty in all ramification of life.
Now, here is the truth in her words, a woman who is completely and entirely dependent on her man financially is a liability to that man. She stands as an obstacle to the man and derails his success.
My sisters, being financially handicap isn’t a position for women_ it’s not a position for any adult. You can say it’s the job of the man to take care of us women, but you should never rely totally on a man.
There is nothing right about it, there is nothing right about saying; “I’m his girlfriend so I’m his responsibility”. Sweetheart, that is so wrong, maybe you have been led to believe that but it is a bad design.
Choose to be an asset, not a liability, stand in a position where you can rely on each other, build each other and stand for each other financially.
Times have changed, for some; it has always been like this, because they were cheered on to work as hard as men. But I realised that for a lot of women, it has been taught to them to wait for a man before they eat, buy body cream, make their hair, fix their nails, and do a lot of basic things that they ought to do for themselves.
This is a wrong notion; don’t hinder your man, empower him. Do some things yourself so he can do other things for the both of you. I know “man money dey sweet to chop” but when you start making yours, you will feel a certain gratification, a form of empowerment that comes from giving yourself something that you didn’t have to beg and grovel for.
Now, my darling brothers, this is not an avenue not to contribute, they say the heart of a man is where his money is. So if your heart is in that fine babe, then don’t wait for her to ask you before giving her gifts. Surprise her with something you know she likes and if she is still struggling to make ends meet then support her and don’t wait for her to ask you first.
But never get involved with an idle woman, and if she was idle before you met her then insist that she gets her hands busy with something financially productive.
Trust me, it will be better for you if she is working, not just because you will have some spare money to save and plan for a better future but also because she will get out of that negative company of lousy and lazy girls.
My dear sister, our presence in the life of a man should create growth and productiveness and if he is not being all that he can be, then make sure it’s not because of you.
Build your man babe, be who he will be proud to be with, make him realise that all women are not the same…
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