OUR PRESENCE

I was about seven years old when I lost my grandma, and a lot of her memory is now vague to me but one of her word of wisdom has not faded from my mind. She would say; “A man whose wife has nothing doing hardly prosper”.

And for that, she made sure that all her daughters had financial establishments even before they are married. The woman was an epitome of wisdom and beauty in all ramification of life.

Now, here is the truth in her words, a woman who is completely and entirely dependent on her man financially is a liability to that man.  She stands as an obstacle to the man and derails his success.

My sisters, being financially handicap isn’t a position for women_ it’s not a position for any adult. You can say it’s the job of the man to take care of us women, but you should never rely totally on a man.

There is nothing right about it, there is nothing right about saying; “I’m his girlfriend so I’m his responsibility”.  Sweetheart, that is so wrong, maybe you have been led to believe that but it is a bad design.

Choose to be an asset, not a liability, stand in a position where you can rely on each other, build each other and stand for each other financially.

Times have changed, for some; it has always been like this, because they were cheered on to work as hard as men. But I realised that for a lot of women, it has been taught to them to wait for a man before they eat, buy body cream, make their hair, fix their nails, and do a lot of basic things that they ought to do for themselves.

This is a wrong notion; don’t hinder your man, empower him. Do some things yourself so he can do other things for the both of you. I know “man money dey sweet to chop” but when you start making yours, you will feel a certain gratification, a form of empowerment that comes from giving yourself something that you didn’t have to beg and grovel for.

Now, my darling brothers, this is not an avenue not to contribute, they say the heart of a man is where his money is. So if your heart is in that fine babe, then don’t wait for her to ask you before giving her gifts. Surprise her with something you know she likes and if she is still struggling to make ends meet then support her and don’t wait for her to ask you first.

But never get involved with an idle woman, and if she was idle before you met her then insist that she gets her hands busy with something financially productive.

Trust me, it will be better for you if she is working, not just because you will have some spare money to save and plan for a better future but also because she will get out of that negative company of lousy and lazy girls.

My dear sister, our presence in the life of a man should create growth and productiveness and if he is not being all that he can be, then make sure it’s not because of you.

Build your man babe, be who he will be proud to be with, make him realise that all women are not the same…

 

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28 thoughts on “OUR PRESENCE

  1. Nice one, even the bible said that a woman should support her household but a man that has not married u, how can u support him?

  2. Nice post…. But make the woman nor too get money ooo, man hate to have the feeling that they compete with their woman financially. Women with pride does not regard the man if they are more financially buoyant. Have seen that causing a lot of divorce, because we forget our place because of money and the rest.

  3. Your words are inspirational and motivational but only the wise can understand then. It is like an adage which says that when the right and left hand wash each other you have a very clean. Two people in a relationship should be supportive otherwise they will remain poor for life period

  4. Choose to be an asset, not a liability, stand in a position where you can rely on each other, build each other and stand for each other financially. That’s my motto

  5. There is nothing right about it, there is nothing right about saying; “I’m his girlfriend so I’m his responsibility”.  Sweetheart, that is so wrong, maybe you have been led to believe that but it is a bad design. Nice one

  6. Please keep this up, more women should understand d effect of their presence in a man’s life and it shouldn’t just be about draining d man’s pocket. Nice one my dear

  7. Trust me, it will be better for you if she is working, not just because you will have some spare money to save and plan for a better future but also because she will get out of that negative company of lousy and lazy girls. I tell guys this every day, date a girl who has something doing, and they will always say a woman who has her own money doesn’t respect a man, but she does, she just doesn’t fear u and why would u need ur woman to fear u? If she respect u, that is more than enough.

  8. I absolutely agree with your submission because men hate liability. So ,girls be up in your game and also be yourself .Thanks

  9. My mum will always say “don’t make ur spouse ur ATM machine rather, cook him to become ur future centre Bank”.

    This also includes guys who derives pleasure in avin affairs wit girls who are richer than them.

    Na wahala be dat ohhhhhh guysss

    Nice one Tasha…….

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