I DON’T BELIEVE YOU
Trust is the foundation of a relationship. Wait! Did I say trust? Yup, love is good and all that, but it wouldn’t help you trust him or her. Love would make you over-look their short comings and all their flaws but it doesn’t mean that you don’t see them and it wouldn’t induce trust.
And guess what, the lack of trust would kill your relationship even when it has love. So yes, trust creates a firm foundation.
Even if your trust for the other person is not absolute, you should be able to vouch for his or her character_ for the character of a man is who he is.
While some relationships begin with no form of trust whatsoever, some had trust then lost it along the line due to some unfortunate situations.
Now, I can’t tell you to walk away from your relationship because there is no trust but I would tell you not to get into any relationship with someone you don’t trust, because then, you are just building your house on the wind.
So, how do we rectify this? Where do we begin? Maybe you had it but you lost it or maybe the relationship never began with it.
Here is how to begin; first, you have to ask yourself why you don’t trust him or her? It’s probably what he or she does; something about the way he acts or the way she acts. The lack of trust is the symptom, only you can find the disease that has that symptom.
Maybe he cheats on you, maybe you have once caught her in a lie “dey say when fire done burn pikin before when e see anytin way resemble red he go run” so, yes. You don’t trust him, because when he says “I’m coming” he is going.
That’s the disease, which had resulted to the lack of trust in your relationship so handle it, get to the root and cure it.
Get a sit down with him, talk about it. Most of our relationships suffer because of the lack of proper mature conversation; we see what’s going wrong but we refuse to talk about it because we are terrified of ending the relationship.
We react heatedly over little things while shying away from the real issue. It’s truly sad how we just want to be in an unhappy relationship simply because we are scared of being alone.
Rip off the band-aid, talk to him. Why walk a mile in the wrong direction when you know you are going the wrong way?
Maybe you don’t know what a relationship is about, maybe it’s means something else to you but that person you are lying next to at night has the power to make or break you. So if you can’t trust him, if you can’t trust her then you might be taking the worst risk of your life.
Please, don’t take that relationship a step further if you can’t repair that broken foundation of trust, sit her down, give him a call and talk about the issue of trust in your relationship, address it now before it goes any further.
You might not see it as anything but until there is trust, there will not be any real progress in that relationship…
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