HOW MAY I HELP YOU?
The words “how may I help you?” shouldn’t be said just to be polite, let it come from the sincere desire to offer positive contributions.
What I have noticed is how selfish couples can be sometimes. It’s always about “wetin i fit get” “wetin u fit do for me?” while the real point to a relationship is to contribute into someone else’s life, instead, some couples now make it more about what they can get.
I don’t want to be overly direct or anything of the sort but if your role in a relationship is only to get and never to give, then you are a problem to that person, a liability and a burden he or she has to worry about.
And mind you, giving isn’t just about money. I know ladies who want a man to cater for their every financial need and it makes me wonder if their hands and legs are just for decorations.
Sweetheart, it’s not about drawing a perfect eyebrow all the time, you have to contribute something to your man, years from now when he is giving a speech about how he accomplished his dreams, you should be a major player in it, he should be able to truthfully say “she is my backbone, and this would have taken longer and be more difficult without her.”
And men; it’s more than just money, you have to motivate her too, encourage her to be a pillar of the society. It’s not all about taking her to the club or the movies, take her to seminars, encourage her to read and expand her understanding in diverse areas. Give her a reason to want to get her own thing going and not to be hundred percent dependent on you, financially.
If you are planning to have a future with that person, then you should help build each other up, lift each other up and create a better future for each other.
“She’s pretty, she is cute, she has swag, she’s a slayqueen” so what? What kind of advice does she give you about your future? How does she handle times of difficultly? And what does she contribute to your life?
“He has a car, his father is rich, he is educated, his swag is tight” okay, I don hear! Has he ever encouraged you to go to school? Has he ever suggested that you study for your examination? Does he insist that you get a job? Does he cheer you on to learn a skill?
My sister, if he doesn’t care about your future, he doesn’t care about you. Trends will pass away, new designs of clothes will come and go, and there will be new make-up methods but guess what? A skill will stay with you forever; your education will remind and trust me dear, if you work hard enough, you will buy a better car than the one he is picking u up with now.
What is he contributing in your life? Is he introducing you to more clubs or to more career opportunities?
Is she showing you faster ways to waste your money? Or opening your eyes to better ways that you can invest your earnings? Answer these questions carefully, because who you are with today might just determine where you get to tomorrow…