DEATH OF LOVE

On the 17th of May, 2017, I made a post titled “THEY LIE, A LOT” at the end of the post I said: “all you need in a relationship is love, understanding and commitment, and with those, you can make any relationship work”

After which I got an email from a lady who asked me what she could do if there is no longer any of those three items in her relationship, according to her, she used to be in love and they had understanding and were committed to one another, but none exist anymore.

I could have just responded to her personally but I realise that it’s a major issue which is common among many.

While I stand firmly behind those words and do believe that with them you can make any relationship work. The lack of it is not an automatic death sentence.

If you once had love and understanding and was commitment to one another, then something must have murdered it which could be resurrected because its residue must still be there somewhere, you still have the memory of it, meaning you can recreate it.

They say love never dies a natural death, something murders it. In a relationship mostly, spouse like to blame their problems on external factors but truly those are just the symptoms. “oh, na that new ashawo way e get outside” really? “so you na the old ashawo?” “yes, my money done finish na, her love don still finish sef” are you serious? So it was in quantity?

My dear, those are merely the symptoms, except of course you were never in love with each other, if there was love, if it formed the foundation of your relationship, then you can find it again.

I believe so much in communication, call him or call her, take a public outing together and have the conversation.

Hear what’s really going on and if you both actually were committed to each other, then you would both be able to open up to each other because a large part of you still want to fight for love.

My sister, this is what you should pay more attention to; his desire to still want to have you and his willingness to fight for the relationship.

When love dies, go to the source and try to resurrect it, ignore all the symptoms and deal with the real issue. But if the zeal to commitment is dead, if the push to fight for each other is no longer there. Then there is nothing love can do.

Love might be the beginning; it might be what births all other factors which keep a relationship going but these other factors have to fight to keep love in the boat.

Love is not all that a relationship needs to survive but it’s a vital ingredient. In making a relationship; without love, it cannot be sweet, if you can manage to keep it, then it would be just exactly that. Manage!

Like the trendy saying; “many relationships are dead, it’s just the cost of burial that is keeping it together”.  When love dies, you bury it; don’t walk around with its corpse…

 

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35 thoughts on “DEATH OF LOVE

  1. I believe love,doesn’t actually die completely,D truth is,it might b frustrated,n seems dead n uninteresting..No matter how frustrated,or seemingly dead,there’s still apart of it,somewhere that’s still crying 4existence n relevance!

  2. Nobody can predict the future. You just have to give your all to the relationship you’re in and do your best to take care of your partner, communicate and give them every last drop of love you have. Which I am guilty of. I think one of the most important things in a relationship is caring for your significant

  3. I believe so much in communication, call him or call her, take a public outing together and have the conversation. But what happens when he doesn’t want to talk to u at all.

    • Then you just gotta show you care rather than talk the talk..men are reserved beings its their nature,women we like to talk,so you show what you feel and then in every man is a little boy,get that boy outta of him by being nice,easy going and honest rather than get angry and wanting to express yourself in full u indulge the fruit of the spirit tolerance and patience i tell you he would come around…tested fact

  4. Stanley Agidee says:

    What a post,when love dies, u bury it,don’t walk around with its corpes,that is exactly what must people do.but love is like a stream that will fined its course

  5. First and foremost, it is necessary to understand the meaning of love. It is not an abstract word but is founded on many dimensions. Many people misinterpret love for infatuation and that is the problem. Therefore, your interpretation of love determines how long it live or die. If love is based on riches, beauty, comfort, popularity, education and so on when these qualities are no longer there or loses there value, l am sorry that is the end of love period.

  6. Love is not easy to give up on, even when its dead, the memory keeps haunting u. Its sad really, so u keep going even when there is nothing left to fight for.

  7. Wow,insightful,it’s the pillar of any relationship even married couple,it’s love that kept them together.it is better to marry a friend than a total stanger.Natasha keep up the work

  8. I believe so much in communication, call him or call her, take a public outing together and have the conversation. Conversations re very important u know, it gives u an understand of ur situation

  9. Hmmmn love!!! They say, is not easy as the saying goes, it takes the Grace of God to find true love, love is sacrifice, patient, kind, forgiveness, sweet communication. With this you can win in all areas.

  10. Like the trendy saying; “many relationships are dead, it’s just the cost of burial that is keeping it together”.  When love dies, you bury it; don’t walk around with its corpse… this breaks me.

  11. Truth said Nathy,but theres this thing with men they are so reserved.i think you have to be free,easy going and win his heart as your bestfriend so he can relate to you and make a balance via the comunication aspect

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