DEATH OF LOVE
On the 17th of May, 2017, I made a post titled “THEY LIE, A LOT” at the end of the post I said: “all you need in a relationship is love, understanding and commitment, and with those, you can make any relationship work”
After which I got an email from a lady who asked me what she could do if there is no longer any of those three items in her relationship, according to her, she used to be in love and they had understanding and were committed to one another, but none exist anymore.
I could have just responded to her personally but I realise that it’s a major issue which is common among many.
While I stand firmly behind those words and do believe that with them you can make any relationship work. The lack of it is not an automatic death sentence.
If you once had love and understanding and was commitment to one another, then something must have murdered it which could be resurrected because its residue must still be there somewhere, you still have the memory of it, meaning you can recreate it.
They say love never dies a natural death, something murders it. In a relationship mostly, spouse like to blame their problems on external factors but truly those are just the symptoms. “oh, na that new ashawo way e get outside” really? “so you na the old ashawo?” “yes, my money done finish na, her love don still finish sef” are you serious? So it was in quantity?
My dear, those are merely the symptoms, except of course you were never in love with each other, if there was love, if it formed the foundation of your relationship, then you can find it again.
I believe so much in communication, call him or call her, take a public outing together and have the conversation.
Hear what’s really going on and if you both actually were committed to each other, then you would both be able to open up to each other because a large part of you still want to fight for love.
My sister, this is what you should pay more attention to; his desire to still want to have you and his willingness to fight for the relationship.
When love dies, go to the source and try to resurrect it, ignore all the symptoms and deal with the real issue. But if the zeal to commitment is dead, if the push to fight for each other is no longer there. Then there is nothing love can do.
Love might be the beginning; it might be what births all other factors which keep a relationship going but these other factors have to fight to keep love in the boat.
Love is not all that a relationship needs to survive but it’s a vital ingredient. In making a relationship; without love, it cannot be sweet, if you can manage to keep it, then it would be just exactly that. Manage!
Like the trendy saying; “many relationships are dead, it’s just the cost of burial that is keeping it together”. When love dies, you bury it; don’t walk around with its corpse…
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