Here is the problem with most single people, the inability to be alone. You break up with Uncle John or he broke up with or the relationship met an inevitable end. And a week later, there comes Uncle Tunde.

Most of the single people out there are not single based on a personal choice. It’s always because no one has asked them out yet or no one has accepted them yet.

Here is the truth, when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. You keep jumping straight from one relationship into another without stopping for a second to ask yourself what you truly want.

This behaviour causes a fundamental problem with our dating world and it pours out too many people with emotional traumas. A reasonable person would take some months to his or herself to ponder over the issues that murdered the previous relationship and how to prevent a reoccurrence of it.

In absence of this, you would be going into the next relationship with the unresolved heart aches of the previous one, thereby sabotaging it from the beginning and giving this new beau issues that he or she has no hand in.

You see, heart break is not like a bruise in the head that everyone can see, you don’t treat it with medicated spirit and all that. When you have an injury on your head, everyone can see it but the one of the heart; even your new lover wouldn’t see it. But it would show in your attitude and it would disrupt the relationship.

Not being able to be alone for the shortest period of time is the reason why your emotions are such a wreck. And it’s also why you are in a new relationship every month.

Take a moment and ask yourself what sister Josephine couldn’t give you or what Uncle Mike failed to offer. Ask yourself what Aunty Philo kept demanding or what brother Mudia wanted so desperately.

Sort out your emotions and make an attempt to get to know yourself, understand yourself, love yourself and keep yourself company.

Like Eleanor Roosevelt said “friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it, one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world” if you don’t enjoy being with yourself, no one else would enjoy your company.

When you no longer have the desperate need to find someone to fulfil your life, then and only then would you meet someone who would give you joy and completeness.

I love to spend another five hours talking about this but a word is enough for the wise and wisdom is profitable to direct. Kisses…


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12 thoughts on “ALONE

  1. So true.everybody wants to be in a relationship, for that singular reason some are will to say “yes” to anyone that says hello.

  2. Adhaka Patrick says:

    “friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it, one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world”… obviously friendship starts with the self.

    Nice one.

  3. Adhaka Patrick says:

    “friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it, one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world”… it starts from the self.

  4. Pple mistake being Alone as being Lonely. Being alone is having no one else around; on one’s own. & often times it’s a deliberate choice. while being lonely is d depressing feeling u get wen no one else is around. So lyk my gud friend Tasha said, being alone is a time to knw wat u rilly want.

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